How to handle breakup: Breakups are something that almost everyone has experienced. Depending on the circumstances, some breakups are quick and painless, while others are gut-wrenching and destabilizing. But what should you do if that doesn’t work out? In the face of an inability to stop thinking about the person who broke your heart, how does one go about actually moving on?
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Disclose your thoughts to people you can trust — or complete strangers you’ll never see again
My almost four-year relationship came to an abrupt end only a few weeks ago. The fact that I’m talking about it with everyone has been extremely beneficial. My parents, friends, coworkers, bartenders, and really anyone who is willing to listen were all there to help. When the people who care about you are aware that you are suffering, they truly come together to support you. Making contact with others resulted in more invitations to yoga classes, home-cooked meals, movie nights, and day trips as a result of the outreach. I’m reminded that I’m self-sufficient and that I have everything I need as a result of spending significant time with more people whom I’d neglected over the years. After that, it’s just a matter of getting accustomed to my new life as a single person.
I was in a tense, 3.5-year relationship with a heroin addict who was emotionally abusive to me (I was young and stupid). As a result, I was devastated at first (again, stupid), but after spending the summer focusing on myself — traveling, spending as much time as possible with friends and family — I came to appreciate the breakup even more.
Everything is a learning experience, and you can learn something new from every situation. Traveling and surrounding myself with friends and family, as well as engaging in exciting experiences, proved beneficial. Maintaining a busy schedule is beneficial. Additionally, living your life, entirely for you, is beneficial.
Take up a new hobby
My long-distance relationship came to an end as a result of the distance. Getting a dog, going out and trying new things (such as a new dance class), meeting more people, and taking on new creative projects to devote my time and energy to have all been beneficial to my development. (Of course, I only did this after the period of sadness and crying had passed, which took several months).
Create a playlist for your breakup
After five months of dating someone who appeared to be (truly) not that into me, he called me and announced that he was breaking up with me. I was enraged beyond measure. At work, I listened to Demi Lovato’s “Sorry, Not Sorry” on repeat all day, every day, without pausing. Her lyrics about an ex-boyfriend one day seeing me “glow up” appealed to me. It was cathartic because I knew I was going to shine brighter and become even more successful, beautiful, and famous, while he would simply become more and more wrinkled (the guy needed to learn about sunscreen and skincare).
Download some dating apps, or go out and meet someone without using them.
I was in a relationship with someone for a little more than four years, on and off. What I believe helped me get over him was first and foremost the sense of relief I felt from no longer feeling under control, and second and foremost, pushing myself to go on dates with a variety of different types of people.
After a while, realizing that there are other people in this city who are far more compatible with me, who have many of the same positive qualities he did but are even better, was what finally helped me to move on.